If you haven’t tried pegging yet, you’re missing out on one of the hottest trends picking up in bedrooms worldwide. A pegging strapon is a perfect toy for giving your lover some anal (or vaginal) pleasure even if you are a beginner. If you’ve never used one before, follow my how to use guide, because you can have a rough time—and not the fun kind. Here’s everything you need to know to use a unisex strap-on harness safely.
How to Use a Pegging Dildo
The first thing to do is discuss pegging. Not everyone is comfortable with butt play so both you and your partner must be comfortable with having a pegging experience.
When the time comes to actually try pegging, make sure to clean yourself and the sex toy well. The anal area has many skin folds and needs a bit more attention than smooth areas. The sex toy can just be wiped down with a damp cloth.
Make sure to engage in plenty of foreplay before you attempt actual pegging. Have the pegger focus on the outer anal area with a finger or tongue. This hits many nerve endings and helps prepare the anus for pegging. You can also insert a finger before pegging for some light prostate stimulation.
Before the act of penetration, lube is a must. Don’t be skimpy on it either. If you fail to use enough lube it can make the experience unenjoyable rather than sensational.
There are a variety of different positions you can use, but I found the best for both vaginal and anal intercourse was doggy-style. It helps the anal canal to open up and is much more comfortable.
Place the tip of the dildo against your partner’s anus, but don’t just ram it in. Allow the person receiving the pegging to dictate how fast and deep the penetration is. They may not be ready for the entire insertable length.
After the recipient becomes accustomed to the feeling of the dildo, you can begin to thrust faster or move in patterns (circles, side-to-side, figure-8, get creative!) and try to target special areas such as the G spot.
Pay attention to what your partner wants—and hold on—because your sex life won’t be the same after this experience!
Different Types of Pegging Dildos
Strap-on and Harness Type
This is the easiest type of setup to use for pegging. It consists of a harness that is strapped around your waist and a dildo that you place in the harness. Another option is a strap-on harness kit with a dildo already attached.
The most common pegging harness comes with an O-ring that clamps your dildo down so that you can switch toys out.
Usually, a dildo with a flared base is required for a secure hold. There are different strap configurations to choose from which come down to personal preference. If your dildo has a suction cup base, you may be able to remove it.
There are even some harnesses that don’t have a single strap—rather, they’re a pair of underwear that holds the dildo in place. Both I and my partner really liked the three-strap style which is similar to a jockstrap. These strapons are easier to adjust and gave a better fit, but better yet, they left my lover exposed instead of being covered by the strap-on harness. This helped me stimulate her just the way she wanted it.
Strapless and Harness Free Type
Instead of using a harness or strap to secure the dildo, these are designed to be held internally by the vaginal muscles. This is achieved by inserting the bulb-like end into the vagina.
My lover really enjoyed the sensations while wearing this device since it created a high amount of stimulation for both of us with every thrust. Many strapless dildos are also designed to provide clitoral, G-spot, and p-spot stimulation as well.
However, I found this style of dildo more difficult to use than strap ons. With lube everywhere, my partner found it difficult to keep the sex toy secure with just her vaginal muscles. We ended up using a harness with it just to make things easier, which sort of defeats the purpose altogether.
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What is the Difference Between a Strapless Pegging Dildo and a Strap-On Pegging Dildo?
Strapless pegging toys are designed to use without the need for any straps. The wearer holds them in place with their vaginal muscles. A strap-on dildo, on the other hand, makes full use of a strap configuration to secure the dildo to the body.
I found the strap-on type to be much better than the strapless. It was easier to use and there were no problems with the dildo falling off. This made the entire experience much smoother, allowing us to stay in the mood and achieve greater satisfaction. However, the strapless setup, when it was working the way we desired, provided a much greater sensation for my lover by hitting her G-spot. I also thought it looked way sexier.
What Kind of Lube to Use
Lube is especially important when pegging, so it is necessary to make sure you use the right kind. The rule is that you don’t want to use a dildo made of the same stuff as the lube. In other words, don’t use silicone lube with a silicone dildo. Water-based lube is always a safe bet because it is perfectly safe to use with most adult toys.
How to Clean and Take Care of Pegging Toys
Cleaning pegging toys is a very easy process. To clean the dildo portion, all you need to do is wash with warm water and mild soap. The strap-on harness kit needs to be cleaned according to the type of material. A leather harness is going to need to be cleaned using a product that is leather-safe.
Some materials—such as cotton and nylon—can be thrown in a washing machine, preferably in a mesh bag to protect the harness. You can wipe down a vinyl harness the same way you wipe down the dildo. Don’t forget to clean the suction cup base, if present.
After cleaning, it is important to dry the harness immediately.
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Different Sizes, Materials, and Price Ranges of Pegging Sex Toys.
Dildo Sizes
Both insertable length and girth need to be factored into your choice of dildo. If you select a toy that is too large or has too much insertable length, it can cause a great deal of discomfort, especially for a beginner. This will detract from the pegging experience for both partners.
For a beginner, a smaller size and shorter insertable length are recommended. I found that as I grew accustomed to pegging, I was able and willing to increase the size and length of my dildo. In general, though, a slimmer dildo with a longer insertable length is ideal because they are better at both G-spot and p-spot stimulation.
Harness Size
It is a good idea to measure your body where the straps will be placed so you can choose a unisex strap on harness that fits well. I like the ones that offer a greater level of adjustability so that a new one isn’t necessary if the shape of my body were to change. If you plan on using your own dildos, make sure that the harness has the right size o ring for the dildo.
Dildo Materials
Dildos can be made out of several different materials which all have varying degrees of safety and comfort. I prefer silicone dildos, but here’s what you can choose from:
Jelly
Jelly sex toys are very common and usually much cheaper than other options. However, jelly dildos are known to contain a high amount of toxic phthalates which can cause cancer. Phthalates are used to make your sex toys soft and flexible which is why jelly toys contain so many. Ask the seller if phthalates are present. Jelly is also porous, which allows bacteria to thrive.
Plastic
Plastic is another option with a low price tag. Plastic is unlikely to contain phthalates since it isn’t meant to be flexible. It’s very easy to clean and maintain. If you are looking for a vibrating dildo plastic is a good choice since the vibrations can really be felt with plastic.
Silicone
A silicone dildo is my recommendation. Unlike jelly, a silicone dildo is non-porous which means that bacterial growth isn’t a problem. Silicone is also a soft and flexible material that is long-lasting. The downside to a silicone dildo is that the dildo will likely be more expensive than the alternatives.
Glass
Another popular material is glass. There is no need to fear a glass dildo will shatter. Glass is very durable and unlikely to break. If your toy does chip you should dispose of it.
Glass is a great choice for your dildo because it’s super easy to clean and non-porous (preventing bacterial growth).
Harness Materials
The choice of harness material depends more on the comfort level and durability that you want.
Leather
Leather is one of the most popular harness materials. It is very durable and will last longer than other materials. Leather does require special cleaning materials, though, and can be more expensive. Leather harnesses shouldn’t be shared because leather is porous and facilitates bacterial growth.
Fabric Materials
This could be cotton, lace, satin, or nylon. I like the easy cleanup of fabrics since all that is needed is to toss them in the wash. This kind of material is less durable than leather but more comfortable. It is a cheaper option for strap ons, as well.
Vinyl
Vinyl is a good choice for easy cleanup since all you need to do is wipe it down. This material is also good if you’re on a budget.
Price Ranges
Dildo
The cost of the dildo will depend on the material, size, length, and type of dildo, but will typically range from $10-$50.
Harness
The more durable the material, the more expensive your harness will be. Price range from as low as $20 all the way up to over $100 for a high-quality rig.
