How does it feel? A fleshlight is a very popular sex toy that offers a great way to enjoy sex in addition to masturbation and real sex with your partner. It’s the ideal toy for pleasure when looking for an experience better than masturbation and as close to the actual sex experience as possible.
I know there are many Fleshlights on the market, but there are great options for beginners, so you’ll have the best experience right from the start! Read on to learn more about the best first fleshlight.
If you’ve never bought a sex toy before, I can assure you it’s as easy as choosing your product and placing the order. Fleshlight companies understand the value of confidentiality to send your product’s private details on the box. I like the idea of how discreet the package is when it arrives, so there are no signs of the sex toy or the fleshlight company.
The Advantage of a Fleshlight
What is the quality of a fleshlight? On a scale of one to 10, I would rank the sensation of a fleshlight as 7 out of 10, with masturbation ranking between 2 to 3 and real sex at a 10. You can’t beat the real thing, but if you’re looking to improve your experience, buying a good fleshlight will not give you the real thing, but it will get you close enough when you don’t have a partner.

How to Choose a Fleshlight for Beginners
So now that you’re ready to make that first purchase, what type of fleshlight you choose is the next step. There are a few essential factors to consider, which include the following:
- Your penis size is one of the most important things to consider when you choose a fleshlight. Use our convenient table to find the perfect fit at: Top Fleshlight.
- Don’t choose a fleshlight that is too small or tight unless suitable for your penis size. Otherwise, you’ll miss out on the experience and won’t last for longer than a minute.
- Choose one of the three fleshlights I recommend, listed in the section below, as they are ideal for beginners and great for satisfying results.
The Best Fleshlights for Beginners
What are the best options for beginners? I recommend the following three products for your first experience:

Utopia Riley Reid

I highly recommend Riley Reid’s Utopia pleasure pocket. It gives you the best-ribbed sensation and enough tightness to make your experience ideal for a great orgasm. Not only is this a fantastic product that’s easy to enjoy from the start, but I also enjoy the idea that it’s modeled after one of the adult film industry’s top stars.
Riley Reid is a petite 5’4″, American-born adult film actress with a fresh, young appearance, with 34-25-36 measurements and signature tattoos. She runs her website, reidmylips.com, and is known for her enthusiasm for sex on screen and sense of adventure in general. Riley Reid’s products also feature an anal fleshlight, which I suggest trying once you get comfortable with the Utopia product.
What makes this product excellent for beginners? There’s a great texture and a natural feel, just enough to get you used to the sensation. The sleeve fits snug, just tight enough to maximize the ribbed nubs around the inside of the fleshlight sleeve. You’ll feel the best of a firm, tight fit with just the right intensity. It’s a great product if you’re a fan of Riley Reid and it will be a great first fleshlight experience.

Stoya Destroya

This product was initially released in 2010 and has become one of the top fleshlight products ever since. The Destroya is modeled after Stoya, who initially began her career in the adult film industry in 2007. She also writes and directs films and has grown to star status in the industry, offering advice in sex columns and publishing her content on sex and related subjects.
I recommend this product because it offers one of the most realistic experiences for a fleshlight. The nobs and texture may appear a bit harsh, but I can assure you they are very pleasurable, and you’ll want to use them more than once, even in one sitting, if you get the chance. It’s a well-designed texture, with a large labia attached, which I find appealing.
The fit is not too tight so that you can enjoy a snug but comfortable penetration experience throughout. It’s also highly stimulating, so you can enjoy the best of the varied texture inside without feeling a grip that’s too tight or rigid.

LVL Up Mia Malkova

If you’re looking for a tighter fit, I would strongly suggest investing in an LVL Up Mia Malkova fleshlight. This product is modeled after the sensational amateur-turned adult film star from Palm Springs, California. She’s a young, vibrant star known for her insatiable appetite for hardcore sex and loyalty to supporters and fans.
Mia established a solid career in the adult film industry and has been acknowledged and awarded for her performances on several occasions. Her ambitious line of fleshlight products includes three orifices, though I recommend the LVL Up product for beginners who prefer a super-tight fit and lots of texture within those sleeve chambers.
As you penetrate this fleshlight, you’ll feel a more intense sensation from one inch to the next. It feels like the ultimate massage for your penis, without any discomfort, but with lots of intensity, if that’s what you like. I found it soft and comfy at first, growing tighter little by little on the way in for a deep, satisfying experience.
My Tips for Beginner Fleshlight Users
If you’re using a fleshlight for the first time, read the instructions carefully, and don’t miss any steps. You’ll need to warm up your fleshlight sleeve before you use it, and this can be done with a blanket warmer, a sleeve warmer (which can be purchased separately), or in a bath of warm water.
Always use your fleshlight with lots of lube, which should be a water-based product. Any oil or other materials can damage the sex toy. Finally, make sure you change the suction power by adjusting the lid on the end of the fleshlight. You’ll have control over how much suction you want, either loose or tight, and I recommend trying a few settings to find the one that works best for you.